I'm known to be preachy sometimes.
I think I'm in the mood to start a conversation.
After sitting at my desk painting for far longer than I had
intended to, I decided to go and just chill with the little girls.
What's on their agenda? What are they doing? My nieces (5 & 8)
and daughter (2) were playing "family". One child takes on a
role of mom or dad-- what have you.
Listening to them play, I noticed a topic that came up more
than I had thought-- beauty. Even at their young ages I could
hear them say little things like "Now I have my makeup on and I'm beautiful."
Such a heavy burden girls have.
I look at the magazines on the coffee table.
Even in my 'ladies' magazines where all of the
women wear white cotton on ads for
poise pads-- all of them are perfect. 36x24x32,
flawless, airbrush complexions-- the works.
I think all of my girls are beautiful, of course, but I know I need to
change a few things. I always thought telling them how pretty they
look would boost their confidence. I wonder--- is it doing the exact
We as human put a lot of value on beauty. Brains are better.
I think I'll be more careful with my words to my little girls.
"My goodness you look so pretty today!" always seemed to me
like a nice thing to tell a little girl. I think "Look at all of these
books you have! How many have you read? What's your favorite?"
would be so much better. I love little brains.
Natural beauty is so precious. Freckles, flaws, gaps, scrapes and all.
It's hard to feel inadequate; there truly is no reason for it.
Every girl is a pretty girl.